Girls: What do you want? Bad boy or great guy?

I have a friend named Scot. I see him meet and talk to girls all the time and he always gets a great reaction. He tells me to be myself. I do that but I still get many girls who brush me off. We have the same groups of friends. All the new friends (girls) think he is great and tell me to act more like him if I want to attract a girl. They buy his BS when he prays before meals (they are Christians... like me.. he might be as well) and stuff like that. He still is the old Scot who talks about getting a girl just so he can "Hit it" and move on. Our old group of friends think Scot is a jerk. One girl told me she hopes and prays that most guys are not like him. Why does a guy like that get total strangers to giggle and bat their eyes at his every word, but I try being myself and I get crickets chirping? I tried the David DeAngelo stuff (cocky/funny). Some of it is good but I just wanna be myself!! Maybe I could stand to be more confident.

Girls: What do you want? Bad boy or great guy?
Girls are stupid. They never really know what they want, so they go for the bad guy.





Then they blame ALL guys as being mean, bad, yada yada.





Stupid bims needs to grow up.
Reply:I rather have a bad guy because number one they are hot but then again they may be a jerk but they grow out of it and you know what they are capable of doing....a great guy can be so good to you but very sneaky and you don't know what to expect out of them because they seem to be so perfect that you wouldn't expect for them to do something wrong and that is what they want you to think
Reply:BEING A GIRL it hard to say what girls want. Some like a good nice guy and other like a bad boy. The majority of my girlfriends like a combination of both. IT is hot to have a bad boy and sweet to have a good nice guy when having alone time one on one
Reply:"Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life. Don't be trapped by dogma — which is living with the results of other people's thinking. Don't let the noise of others' opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary." - Steve Jobs
Reply:I have personally had them both the Bad Boy and now the great guy which coincidentally are the same person. The great guy now use to be the bad boy years ago. We broke up and now years later he has really changed and is now the great guy. The major difference between the great guys and the bad boys is the confidence that the bad boys exude. Women love confident men and good guys don't seem to have that outgoing personality that bad boys do. That is what attracts the women to them to began with. But in the long run when a woman wants a serious relationship she really wants a good guy with a bad boy's confident personality. With the change that has taken place with my former "Bad Boy" I now have that and it's great!
Reply:Face it some women are just too shallow and stupid to realize those kind of things. They would rather have a guy who is "so fine" and treats them like crap. (Not saying you are not good looking cuz Im sure you are.)Well you don't have to pretend to be someone else and definitely don't try to be like Scot. The right girl will come along...one day....and I definitely think you're hanging out with the wrong crowd. Just be patient and find some new friends or stay with the old ones.
Reply:I think that maybe you are meeting the wrong kind of girls try to be kind and try to be yourself all the time
Reply:Women's emotional expectation of a relationship is so abysmally low, and they are so suspicious that all they expect is emotional intensity. Your friend is prepared to manipulate tease and goad women - if he treated a man that way, he'd get his lights punched out.





Unless you get a woman who has enough maturity to recognise a good thing when she sees it (and they are vanishingly rare) you must play brain games with women.





Women's romantic fiction;


Girl Meets Mr. A (Safe)


Girl meets Mr. B (Dangerous)


The plot plays out in a number of ways including but not limited to;


Having been mistaken and Mr. A is actually a bit dangerous.


Mr. B made good by the love of a good woman.


Mr. A becomes a hardguy saving the heroine from the Evil Mr. B.


Mr. C turning up and...


etc.


Yadda yadda yadda. You get the picture? It could be anything.





Read "Pride and Prejudice". Make your target woman's experience that of heroine, and cast yourself as Darcy. Just don't be Mr. Boring.





Once you are together, you can let her unwrap your camouflage, revealing your fundamentally decent character.





In the meantime, it is the Mans part to QUIT COMPLAINING.
Reply:be yourself. the perfect girl will come soon if your patient. just live life to the fullest till she comes.
Reply:Maybe the girls he's attracting aren't really the right kind of girls. True though that lots of guys can be shady and girls can't always tell.


You do just need to be yourself. Maybe you should look for the right kind of girls somewhere else. Women are always looking for the "great guy" honestly. I tried the bad boy thing before and it SUCKS! Now I have a great guy and am so happy in life.


Good luck to you. Just stick to your guns and don't try to change yourself (you sound really nice) to attract a girl. If someone doesn't like you the way you are, then they aren't right for you at all.
Reply:Hi, Im guessing your really young, and I think that you pretty much answered your own question, when you said that all you really need is a confidence boost, trying to be like other guys may work for a while but to be honest it doesnt last very long. Most girls and women like a guy to be true to themselves, not act like a jerk. Im old enough to know what I want in a man and its NOT a guy that can give great chat-up lines and charm the birds from the trees. What I and most women want in a guy is someone who SAYS WHAT HE MEANS AND MEANS WHAT HE SAYS!!! In other words, just be yourself and trust me, some day soon you will meet girls who think you are great to hang out with. I really wish you the very best of luck honey!
Reply:Confidence goes a long way. Haven't you ever seen guys who are not that attractive get girls that were gorgeous? Well, there is formula involved. You have to have confidence, good conversational skills and something to offer whether it be intellect or whatever. Some think you have to have money but the truth is, that the girls you will attract with money are girls that will be around as long as the money is around.





Also, you seem timid. You may just want to wait until the right girl for your personality comes around. Don't try to be someone you are not. If chicks don't like you for you, let them cluck somewhere else. You just don't want the heartache and resentment that goes with being someone you are not.





Good Luck to you!