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I've known a girl for a month (I had taken her to my prom), we had a date but it got canceled because she went out of town. Before that we had spent some time together, at a party and at a store. She had shown some signs of liking me, and at school two of her friends told me on separate occasions that she likes me. We talked over myspace until she stopped replying to my messages. We haven't talked in a week, I have no idea what's going on, what should I do? If she doesn't like me anymore, I should have known it was too good to be true. I'm not a thug, I'm not tall, I can't drive yet, I'm not buff yet (I have a slightly visible six-pack mostly because I'm skinny and my arms are average sized), and I actually care about whoever my current interest is, which no girls today want. (END OF SUMMARY)
I've known a girl (now a sophomore) for a month. Her older sister (now a graduate, along with me) hooked me up with her for my prom date. We had a great time that night and afterwards we continued to talk. During the time we were still in school, two of her friends told me that she liked me on separate occasions. Two weeks ago the girl invited me to her sister's graduation party (that I already knew about) over the phone, and she told me where it was. In the same conversation I asked her out to the movies the next week and she said yes. I went to the party late. I saw her mom first and she said "Hey, (the girl's name) is over there." When we saw each other, she smiled widely and asked in a friendly way why I was late. I explained to her I was at dinner with my nephews and our friends, celebrating all our graduations and time spent at the restaurant went longer then expected.
She was obviously happy to see me. I asked her if her mom said it's ok for her to go to the movies with me and she said she's waiting until she knows for sure her mom will say yes. After that she said "I'm so glad I'll get to see you the whole summer." Being cautious at first because I usually wind up getting hurt by girls, I thought that I guess she must like me at this point. Since I was late I worked with her helping to clean the party up. I would see her carrying something heavy by herself and I would offer to take it, but she would let me carry it with her instead of just giving it all to me. She asked me to come with her and her family to finish the party elsewhere, but when it didn't happen I just left with her and her older sister who drove. We sat next to each other and she sat close to we, choosing to rest her shoulder on top of mine. In the car it was apparent we were going to her house and she said "You can see my room." Her sister said "I'm taking him home," and then she said "He's not going home, his mom said he can stay with us." (which she did, my mom dropped me off and the girl talked to my mom explaining we were going somewhere else, adding that it was nice to meet my mom again (since prom night). My mom drove off in awe of the girl's beauty and manners, as I would find out later) At this point I thought "She must like me."
We got to her house and then instead of going in we went with her older brother to a wal-mart (the sister had gotten tired and went in the house to sleep). On the way it was no big deal to me that we were sitting close again as I thought we must be cramped, until I looked over her sitting in the middle and there was space between her and the girl behind the passenger seat. I spent time with the girl and we talked like we usually did, opening up about ourselves and making each other laugh. She asked me what I think about her even though she doesn't care what people think about her. She also told me her first impression of me and that she was right, because I am really smart, she said. I tried being modest. The night of the prom, we were just getting to know each other and she had told me more than once how handsome I looked, and I told her she looked beautiful more than once. On slow songs we had danced very closely, with my hands on her hips and her hands on my shoulders.
When we left the store it was late so I told her brother where to go to take me home. Me and the girl were sitting close together again like we were all night, and we talked a little. When I was almost home I whispered to her did she still want me to see her room, and she said "You can see it next time." She said I had a nice house, then we said bye and hugged.
The next week we talked over myspace and she said she was going out of town for the entire summer (and apologized), rendering our movie date canceled. I was going to tell her on our date I liked her and ask her to be my girlfriend. A couple days later she got a boyfriend. My sister who's 28 explained that it's ok for her to have a boyfriend while she's gone and we can talk over the internet and still get to know each other, plus it's not going to last anyway. My plan was to let that relationship run its course and work out over the summer so when she came back it would be very easy for me to gain more attraction and more likely to make her my girlfriend. I would also talk to her over the internet to continue to get to know her, establishing a friendship. The problem is that since she explained she's out of town, she hasn't replied to any of my messages and I don't know what's wrong. I do know that she said she doesn't really like talking on the internet, so I asked her if there was a way I can call her in one of the messages and got know reply. Other messages where I got know reply asked if she was having fun where she was, if she's ok, or just saying hi. I didn't send too many. The last one I sent I waited five days. All Seven of my messages, sent in a pattern where it wasn't too clingy (I hope), with lots of time in between them, haven't been replied to, though I saw where she commented on two other boys' pages while ignoring me. We haven't talked in a week, I have no idea what's going on, what should I do? If she doesn't like me anymore, I should have known it was too good to be true. I'm not a thug, I'm not tall, I can't drive yet, I'm not buff yet (I have a slightly visible six-pack mostly because I'm skinny and my arms are average sized), and I actually care about whoever my current interest is, which no girls today want. I'm sure she must know that I like her by now.
Girls, what's going on if you suddenly ignore a boy?
There are about three different possibilities.
1. She either really likes you and she just wants to test you. Test you buy seeing if you will forget about her or if you are totaly obsessed. try not to emial her too much cause that will make you seem obsessed which no girl wants. Just talk to her at the most twice a day.
2.She finds you really annoying so to sum it up dont waste your time.
3.She is really busy and doesnt have time to talk to you. This could be bad for your relationship but if you want to go with it then hey! whos stopping you! But if you want to commit to a relationship where she canèt make any dates or a few then i would tell you to just stick to friends.
Reply:that's really long!!!! i read just the summary. hey, if she doesn't reply your messages, don't take it so personal. go find yourself another girl that will reply, and dont start looking at your flaws. everyone has flaws....that's what makes us unique.
Reply:Do you see her in person?? If so, ask if everything is alright. There might be something going on that she is not telling you. She will either open up to you or tell you that she doesnt really like you or whatever.
Reply:I read only the first paragraph.. but i did the same thing to a guy.. I had a huge crush on this one guy.. and then eventually(which took a long time) he liked me %26amp; we kissed and i just randomly stoped liking him. It is very odd it wasnt that he was a bad kisser or anything like that but.. I just lost total interest in him.. we were extremely close and i was glad i would finally not be single... again.. but for an unknown reason i just did not like him.. Maybe that is what happend to her.. But call her because you never kno maybe shes been really busy and hasnt had time to go check on Myspace or wtv..
I wish you the best of luck! :D
(Stop putting your self down, it wont help)
Reply:If someone likes you, they will let you know it by spending time with you. Let it go, and stop obsessing about this girl. You had a few fleeting interactions, and she appears to have moved on. There will be other girls for you, just be patient. And don't read so much into every little action.
Reply:Well one there was no way i was going to read that whole thing
lol
well maybe she heard about something you did and she is angry with you..
Or maybe she just decided to move one..
Try asking a friend of hers to talk to her about whats going on..
Good Luck
Reply:I think it might have been something you said when you hung out the one night. I think this because it sounds like you were hitting it off just right before. Than when you hung out with her brother or whatever it just seems like she lost interest by what you said. I might be mistaken but just see what happens when she gets back. Just ask her whats up and if she enjoyed her trip or something. Keep the idea of friends in your head not trying to hook up because that might be what scared her.
Reply:"and I actually care about whoever my current interest is, which no girls today want."
Sorry to burst your bubble but this girl does like that in a guy. But anyways they're two answers to that question, either she doesn't like you and is ignoring you because she thinks that's the best way to go, or maybe she doesn't realize that you truly do like her.
Reply:probably did something to make me not want to talk to him.
Reply:she doesn't like you anymore sorry. and you ARE to clingy.
relax take a breath and stop stressing over girls who are not stressing over you
Reply:I think if u r dateting her she is not the one for u
Reply:dont sweat it there is always another, she probably found something that caught her interest you deserve better.
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