Are girls prejudiced against Asian boys?

I just came back from a frat party. It was my first college frat party. The party was 4 hour long, and I got to dance with just 2 girls. 4 girls turned me down. I have to admit I was a little disappointed. I consider myself to be an acceptable looking Asian dude. Although I'm "only" 5'11.5, I am pretty buff and have an athletic body. At least that's what a good girl friend of mine told me. However, the fact that four girls turned me down hurts my ego so much. I actually feel that girls, regardless of race, just don't want Asian dudes. I think stereotypes of weak, stiff Asians are the cause Even a girl of my race refused to dance with me. When a flabby, shorter white dude approached her, she seemed very pleased. My best friend, who is white and danced with lot of girls, told me that I should have gotten drunk before dancing. He was like, "girls don't care if you are yellow or green. You were sober, and when you are sober it's hard. You gotta get loose." I wonder who's right. Me or him.

Are girls prejudiced against Asian boys?
I think there are two problems with your question.





1. "Girls"


2. "Asian boys"





Nobody's created the same. Girls don't all have the same tastes, and Asian boys ain't all Casanovas. There's only a preference if you give them something to prefer. And at the end of the day, if there really is a girl that is going to discount you just because you are Asian-- is she really YOUR type?





One thing is pretty universal though: Girls tend not to like people who aren't confident. You sound like you got a lot going for you. So just sack up, pick up the swag, and complete the package already. ;)
Reply:I don't think being Asian had anything to do with it. right now i have a big crush on an Asian guy and its starting to make me find a bunch of Asian boys cute.





It must have just been how you were asking the girls. You don't have to be drunk but maybe you need to just get lose.
Reply:Dude, I think the bottom line is this: 1) everyone, including yourself should just get it out in the open that racism and discrimination exists, and has a huge impact on dating and other factors. Movies like "Crash", (which is about racism today) don't exist for nothing.





2) Realize that because of this, people, including girls you may find attractive, many will have already stereotyped you in the negative catagory because of some believe the lies they heard about all asian guys (usually the lie starts from the media). Clearly people don't admit to being racist, but when you look at they're actions, the evidence is clear.





3) After realizing this, this will open your eyes to see the kinds of girls you most likely shouldn't try bothering with, and start seeing the groups of girls out there who will dig guys like you.





4) Clearly not everyone is the Don Wan, which if your that skilled at the "talk", you can have just about any girl. But not everyone is an expert in that sort of mind control on girls, so you, like the rest of us normal guys, have to find girls who are into guys like yourself.





I'm black, and I ran into a lot of racism with girls who all believed I would end up like the black male stereotype they hear on the radio or see on tv. Some girls would be more difficult to prove that I'm just a regular guy looking for the right girl. Some girls were open minded enough to give me a change to prove that not all black guys are thugs who use women. So I felt bad that I couldn't round up tons of girls like Brad Pitt, but once I found the kind of girls who are cultured enough, I found my niche. Maybe your situation is similar.
Reply:YOUR GAME IS WEAKKKK!!!!
Reply:the solution:





wait until porn industry decides to put asian dudes....and the jewish media starts to put more asian male faces....
Reply:Perhaps it's too early in the game to get your groove on? Perhaps the girls were too sober to still look at you as only asian instead of a fellow collegue?





It's sad that white men at corporate levels are determining what white women want in pop culture. It's like only showing 3 flavors of ice cream (Black/African American, White/Caucasian, Hispanic/Latin) at Baskin Robins. And because women see those 3 flavors they think it's everything they want. When in fact consumer culture is telling them what they want. Many dutifully accept it. They allow these white old men to control their sexuality as well as trying to control ours (us Asian men).





I once flirted with a pretty girl at a club. She turned me down. Then a DJ started a dance contest. I blew everyone away and won. In the end, men and women were shaking my hand and patting my on my back. Girls were all over me. All the while I kept looking at the girl (with a smirk on my face) to let her know that she just turned down the the "man of the hour" - the foreign one who knows nothing of western culture. She was beat red and looked embarrased. After I took the money from the contest I asked my friends if we can leave and so we did. I didn't feel like partying after that bitter sweet moment.





I've made it my life goal to break those stereotypes. I've spent a lot of personal time to learn anything and everything about western culture and to be really good at it (ex. American dancing - Hip Hop, Swing, Salsa, etc). To prove that the majority can be brash and judge too quickly. To prove in front of people's faces that in the end of the movie the hero isn't always white. Hopefully in the next generation, white women will see the truth.





When you go flirting with these girls, don't ever mention that your different. It will only separate the two of you even more. Just try to find common ground (like having a good time). You're sure to find a girl that likes more than just 3 flavors. Good luck.
Reply:I think girls in america don't like asian guys at all. Their perceptions are shaped by the mainstream media. Asian guys are always being put down on TV and in movies. It sent subliminal message to all the girls that asian guys are unattractive
Reply:I say you and your friend are both right.


A lot of girls do hold prejudice against asians at first, but if they get to know you a little more, that prejudice definitely goes away.


For example (I'm 15 years old, a sophomore at high school, and asian as well), there's this girl I like, she is white. I doubt she would've said yes if I just asked her to homecoming. But first I got to know her and talk to her, and she opened up more and said yes.


I say most girls ARE prejudiced against Asian boys, but they just have to get to know you better to notice that they are wrong.


And maybe you're friend is right, you should loosen up and not be too uptight about this subject.


Be confident and pretend that this issue doesn't exist, girls will like that
Reply:none of you are right. dont get drunk, and dont feel self-conscious, be proud of who you are, and someday you will find a girl who feels the same.
Reply:Well i am white and i have been dating my asian bf for 3 and a half years now soon to be married! and i find him very attractive its just different girls have different taste dont feel down just think of it as they missed out lol thats what i would do maybe you came on to strong but i seriously doubt it was because you are asian i am sure you will find a girl soon! good luck :)