Girls must be blind cause this sucks!!!!! (girls opinions would be awesome)?

Im a football player and hang with football friends and they are always talking about all the girls they've been with and what they did and it makes me think. how the hell did these idiots get sex and i can't even get a girl friend??? i think it sucks how these guys are treating them and the girls just go right to them. i wish that they could see that i would never be mean, disrespectful, or rude to them.





im 6'3 200lbs muscular and starting varsity 17 years old





What do i need to do cause i feel like ive got enough good things going for me i just can't seem to make it work with any girls i try...





i asked one girl to the movies but i asked her on monday and by thursday she called it off.





then i asked two girls to go bowling knowing that they would probably bail.... im kinda sick of it. i mean i put my self out there, i don't look bad. is it because i don't smoke at all or get drunk every weekend....





WHAT DO YOU THINK THE DEAL IS?????

Girls must be blind cause this sucks!!!!! (girls opinions would be awesome)?
The type of girls that are going after your friends, and sleeping with them, aren't the ones you should be with anyway. It sounds like you have your head on straight, especially for someone that's in high school.





I know having a girlfriend and going on dates is all teenagers think about, but if you concentrate on your grades, playing good ball, the outcome of your situation would be much better then if you "wasted" your time messing with girls.
Reply:The bad thing is most (not all) 17 year old girls don't care about nice.They care about what their friends are doing and what is going to make them popular. In a few years they will be looking for someone like you. The good thing is there are girls that aren't like that. Are you just looking in one group of people for a girl? If you are try to meet other people that you normally wouldn't think to go out with. You keep doing what you're doing and someone will come along. You can avoid alot of stress by staying away from those kinds of girls anyway because trust me after high school none of that will matter.
Reply:Most of the times girls are attracted by rough boys.I think that's what is it.You should try to be a little unapproachable and don't let them feel that you are in desperate need of a girl.You will see the difference.Try
Reply:most girls dnt knw a good man until they have actually been threw all the bad ones...just wait you will get someone who would appreciate the way you treat them...and there is nothing wrong with you ..the way you describe yourself.i mean not even your looks but just the way you have respect for women.....i would definetly go out with you ...and plus you have to remeber girls that age{well most girls} are not worried about men being nice to dem..dey just wanna get laid...so dnt worri if dese chicks arent digging u ...u will find a rel women who loves being respected and u love respecting her...
Reply:i think maymay was right you shouldn't be going after those kinds of girls and if they dont like bc u dont smoke or drink u shouldnt like them anyway bc i think that thats is the best thing in the world a guy who doesnt smoke or drink or do things he shouldnt be doing so dont chase love let it find you it may take a while but eventually u will find the perfect one so good luck with ur problems
Reply:It may be ur approach. But nit to worry u are only 17 u have plenty of time to refine ur skills. Try going out with a girl as friends at first and then see where u can take it from there. And make sure u compliment her and be pilot soon they'll be telling u all there business and you'll get all the sex u can't handle. LOL
Reply:I'm sorry you have to go through this in high-school. It really stinks but I can assure you that as long as you are a good guy, eventually the girls when open their eyes and see what a great catch you are. Girls often go for the guys that are the poorest choices in high-school, until they learn from their mistakes.
Reply:By what you are typing you sound arrogant but i could be wrong! i mean i dont really know you...hmmm, if you do say that you got all these things going great for you then it shouldnt be a problem right? just try a different approach on girls so that they could see that you are more than just a jock. And yeah, i agree with ya if your friends are rude then why do those girls go to them? im a girl and i hate to admit it but yes...sometimes we are blinded by infatuation, maybe the idea of going out with them just sounds appealing but in 10 years "labels" from high school wont matter anymore. trust me...you'll get a girl, just work on showing what you are on the inside..
Reply:Believe me when i say we're not looking for guys who smoke and get drunk... or at least I'm not. I personally think you're trying too hard. Don't throw yourself out there. You're only going to end up looking needy. I suggest you give it some time. And just be yourself. I speak for girls everywhere i'm sure when i say we hate it when guys try to pretend to be something they're not. And i'm sure that whoever she is she'll be lucky to have you... but that's only if you keep your word about not being mean and disrespectful and junk.


Patience. There are loads of fish in the sea and an entire lifetime to go fishing.. hehe..
Reply:awwwwww sweetie, u sound like the perfect guy...n there's very little chance u hv much competition between u %26amp; this guy(except ofcourse he's turning 18 and plays music..which is a bonus for me coz i feel a bit shy to get emotionally involve wit a guy whose younger than me or too old)...im from australia and we use kilograms to measure weight not ibs...wat is it??and wat is varsity?? the truth is tat idk wat the deal is...u seem like a nice good looking guy whose got things going for him...maybe those girls tat u asked out are either terribly shy(like me) or hv super strict military like poarents(like me) or is busy wit shopping or school(like me)..or one i think more 2 ur liking-that they r blind...maybe ask ur 'female friends' to go out wit u or focus more on hvng more good female friends who will introduce u to otehr good and hot looking girls.. i know tat i will introduce this guy to teh rest of my friends simply coz he's a bit like u, gawjus and sexyadn musical except i WILL KILL ANY1 who steals him frineds included...so ur female friends will open a door of oppturnity 4 u..btw, how do u NOT smoke at all??it's easy 4 me coz i dont smoke either and feel like vomiting whenever im ard a person who is smoking in front of me..but hw do u avoid tempttaion??/keep up the good habits and good luck wit ur "varsity" thingy n ur girl friends woes dont 'put urself out there. u wld seem so clingy nad insecure %26amp; i persoanlly wld prefer a GUY NOT A GIRL(nt tat im implying u're 1 but if u convey urself as the insecure eager type..u jz gonna put girls off) enjoy freedom while u still can
Reply:if you really won't be mean or rude to girls, i'd personally choose you. maybe you just need to wait for the right girl for you rather than be with a lot of girls you won't even like. maybe those girls your friends are talking about only want popularity since they're going with football guys. try to show girls that you really respect them..
Reply:I so know what you mean...


I'm also friends with footballers and i agree that they treat girls like meat. I also fail to understand why these girls sleep with them. However, it can be said that nine times out of ten, they pick these girls up while they are out and wasted at night clubs. The girls are usually overwhelmed about the fact that they are footy players (god knows why) and get caught up in the moment - and they are usually drunk as well.





Don't get me wrong - footy players are great as friends, and i do know some nice ones, but the majority of them i would never consider as boyfriend material. I guess this is because they can get any girl they want because of their status and are usually not very faithful which would drive me crazy!





I know it can be disheartening sometimes. But...someone will come around. Someone who is worth it. You don't want to be with someone who doesn't understand you and takes you for granted. You need to be with that person you feel most comfortable with and someone who loves you for you!





Don't give up!
Reply:I don't think there's an actual problem here...


I think that you just havent found the right girl 2 date yet?? Your still young, so I wouldnt worry too much !





You sound like a really decent guy. So I'm sure you will have no problem meeting a nice girl who will feel priveledged to be with you..





As in for them dudes on your team, They sound like Muppets!!, Sadly some girls tend 2 fall for these types, bt not all girls!!!!!!!!!!!..... %26amp; are you POSITIVE they are all telling the truth??? Because I have found thru life, that the guys most likely to BRAG are the ones who arent getting anything, if you know what I mean..... They sound eally immature.





Stay the way you are %26amp; PROMISE you'll meet a nice lady....


Xhope this helpsX
Reply:alright , i know exactly the situation you are in. i was the same way in high school. i was a cheerleader and everything but no one ever liked me. i never had a boyfriend from my school. but i was friends with everyone.





the reason they arn't dating you is the fact that you are too nice of a guy and want more than a good lay. right now all theya re looking for is to have fun, and when someone is mentioning something serious they object to it!





btu dont worry you may not be catching the women right now but as soon as you get out of high school they will be chasing you down!





good luck!
Reply:tbh you try for the girls you like dont exspect them to come to you and you jst gotta keep tryn man its how it gos keep asking untill you find one who does go to that movie. GL man girls like a guy who cares and you seem to have the right idea =] keep tryn youll find a girl
Reply:you might not like the sound of this but wouldnt you prefur a realy nice girl who treats you nice and has a realy nice personality rather than just sex and things like that? i think you should wait untill it happens cos it will you wont be single forever its like you can get the most good looking boy ever and he wont have a girlfriend for ages it just the way life works
Reply:maybe u arent confident enough try harder smile alot be funny with them maybe they just want to be friends and think ur coming on to them just keep trying and dont give up being a teen is hard i know im 17 too life sucks sometime sbut u just gotta keep trying
Reply:Well it seems at though your friends could really use a reality check...Sometimes girls don't understand what a guy is feeling. At other times girls just don't know what they want. They at first want that bad boy then they realize it's really a nice guy they want. Yeah it's not fair that you are always overlooked by girls but like you said you have alot going for yourself and when the time is right the right one will come along. In the meantime keep being yourself and don't change for anyone. If they can not like you for you then you really don't need them in your life.