Girls and confidence?

WHAT THE CRAP?!


1) can girls not see a difference between arrogance and confidence? all the time i see girls with the ******** douchebags that treat em like crap


2) do these girls like being treated like crap? cuz the douchebaggest guys get all the girls


3) what is it about confidence that girls like so much? yah confidence is great and all but it alone doesnt really get you crap. its always on the top of girls lists when there are other more important things...like being nice to the girl maybe!?

Girls and confidence?
Uh-Oh! Someone call the WAAAAAAAAAHmbulance. We have a first degree whiner here.





Maybe if you stopped whining so much, you could get a girl. But you're probably the type to sit there and sulk that all girls are with douchebags rather than try to actually TALK to a girl.





Go get a teardrop tattoo and listen to some more linkin park you whiny emo.
Reply:most the time, the cocky annoying talking out of their a-s-s guys are the ones who somehow stumble into success...





usually their mouths, though annoying to actually hear, say the dumbest things, they do have a knack for chewing the fat and getting things done...





like the corvette guy, with the boat in the marina and the house in the nice nieghborhood...who even with a wife and kid at home still has something to say to all the ladies...





they really are a ridiculous lott...i've learned what to do with them...'play them' the truth is that their simple-mindedness has them trying to meet my unemotional challenge...when its all said and done...i have their corvette...and they pay for my apartment...
Reply:In this day and age, you need to remember that our society wants us all to have more masculine traits. Think about it. Back then, girls were expected to sit at home and wait for boys. Now, we're told to go out and land a good catch. The fact is, the boy who acts like the best usually fools some girls into thinking he is, and she'll be determined to bring down her prey.





It's a sad system, but what can you do besides wait for a few smart guys/girls?
Reply:That's where your wrong my friend, i personally cannot stand arrogant men, theres nothing worse than a guy that takes longer to get ready than i do, dont get me wrong i like a good looking man as much as the next girl, if he has a hot body even better, but over all that comes their personality, i myself happened to marry a good looking guy with the body of a god, but when i met him he was painfully shy and not sure of himself at all, that's what attracted me, not only that but he treats me like a queen and has never hurt me.
Reply:Look at the bright side. You could look like me
Reply:looks like someone has trouble getting laid
Reply:how about confidence and nice? i dont get treated like crap but you are right they should expect better.
Reply:apparently somone you have an interest in is interested in someone you think is arrogant





Yes there is a difference between confidence and arrogance... and I am a girl... so you need to re-think your over-generalized observation





do you prefer a girl who has some self-confidence or who cowers in a corner.... ponder that and maybe then you will understand your question about confidence





Being Nice to Girls is IMPORTANT





Many times, younger girls haven't figured ot the difference %26amp; think the arrogant man is really a confident man





there are plenty of girls... even young ones that see the difference %26amp; those that see the difference generally think arrogant men are idiots
Reply:Confidence, like nice looks, is an attention getter. People (in general) enjoy being around confident people...





..arrogance is generally a turn-off but sometimes people don't realize a person is arrogant or a jerk until they get involved with them.





Some women date such guys because they think they can change (improve) them...others do it because they are desperate to date someone and figure being with a jerk is better than %26lt;gulp%26gt; being single.





Guys make poor choices in the chicks they date as well...I figure as long as they needy and "improvers" are tying up the jerks, that's a few less of them I'll have to muck through and I'll stand a better chance of finding someone worthwhile to date. ☺
Reply:Some girls settle for the jerks because they don't think they can do any better. They do it without realizing it. I personally, don't get it. My best friend had a guy who was a "douchebag" and he treated her awful. She was treated awful as a child by her father and so without realizing it she just settled. Luckily, she got over that. Confidence is good but ********* isn't. I think a person can be overly confident which is a complete turn off.
Reply:Some girls like douche bags and some douch bags are nice. They do all that stuff but then there's more to them than that. Who's to argue what a certain woman wants. You seem very upset about it, but I wouldn't sweat it if I were you. If you can't get laid or get a girl being Mr nice guy, turn on a douche bag charm and your wish will come true, if it's that important to you. Women see more than that, it's more than you know.
Reply:I think you bring up a valid point. Arguably the same thing that draws women to a man may be the same reason that he treats her wrong, or he cheats on her, etc. Primarily because you're right they (although I think it's men and women, although it may ring true more with women) perceive ********* as confidence. Nothing could be further from the truth! Confidence has nothing to do with physically or verbally displaying it. Instead it is about having faith in oneself, not outwardly showing others that you have faith, that's *********. It's hard to believe (sarcasm implied) that people who use ********* as an indicator of confidence usually end up with a selfish, un-reciprocally, and egotistical mate. Another reason? Lot's of people like drama, girls sometimes get bored with the "perfect guy" who does anything and everything they want. Why? Because sometimes girls want to be the one thing that can change a guy.
Reply:Dont worry for them, get yourself a nice, understanding girl.
Reply:i think that they don't like being treated like that, but they're scared to end it because they are scared to be alone or they are scared that the guy will hurt them if they do. i feel very bad for them because they are really confused and hurting.
Reply:Honey, believe me, those girls who are with the jerks today will be regretting it later. They just have to GROW UP. If you're a nice guy, and it sounds like you are, just be patient. You'll have your time to shine. There ARE girls out there who respect and appreciate a guy who will treat them like a queen. Yes, there are some messed up girls who are attracted to guys who treat them like crap. But you don't want to be with that type of girl anyway. Believe me, there's something going on at home that makes them want to be with a jerk. They are a little messed up emotionally and will usually grow out of it. I know it's frustrating but all girls aren't like that.





The thing is, you can be a nice, sweet guy and STILL have confidence. Confidence is attractive to women because it shows a certain POWER which is very sexy. A confident man is one that the world cannot shake so women feel safe with that person. It's also nice to be with a guy who is confident because you dont' have to constantly reassure him of his manhood. I agree, it's a HUGE turnoff to see an ARROGANT man and women with some experience CAN tell the difference.
Reply:tell me about it, us nce guys never get a break, just the arrogant t**ts that have all the fun, hell if ya cant beat em, join em!








and takfam (what a stupid name!) linkin park are not emo, they kick ***!
Reply:i totally understand. some girls just don't know that the guys are mean to them. i had a friend that went through that. he was a butt hole. anyway, i like guys that are more humble and not so cocky. that is so annoying.