Girls, please help me!?

Please answer all my questions!!!


AND BE HONEST NOT NICE!!!!!!


what kind of personal traits do girls like?


what gets a girl's attention right away?


how smart do girls like guys to be?


how physically active should a guy be?


if someone likes you, how would you want them to tell you?


if I want to ask a girl out, what do I have to do before asking them out?


how do I not be creepy?


how can I be taken seriously?


how can I show a high self esteem?


how do I keep calm and smooth while asking a girl out?


do girls like sarcastic guys?





I really need your help!!! because I like this girl and she doesn't like me! so how do I get her to notice me as a potential boyfriend?





how do I start to get to know her, how do I talk to her?

Girls, please help me!?
Hey there,


the question you asked has as many answers as ther are women on the planet. We are all looking for different things.


There will be a difference too in the age of the person answering your questions. What I wasnted 18 is not want I found at 48.... but here goes :)





Traits= honesty, humor, quiet strength, being cared for without being pocessed.





getting their attention= depends on the girl. some like the nice guys, some like the bad, some like funny, some like brainy. Find out what her insterests are and see how close you come.





how smart= depends on the girl. I like a guy that has a brain... not a know it all....I like more of a Ken Jennings from Jeapardy type. (geek) I know I don't like someone that only thinks of B-ball and nascar. (no man-boys)





active= depends again on the girl.





how to tell about liking= don't just tell me show me. No money, don't sweat it. pick me flowers from a vacant lot... it's not where they came from but that you were thinking about me.





asking them out= how about starting with hangin out in a group, then maybe something that boht of you want to do, a movie, the park.... something fun.





creepy= that's a hard one to answer. sweet but not stalking would be what I would suggest.





taken seriously= never disappoint. if you tell her you're going to do something do it.... hanging with your friends all the time playing videos isn't probably her idea of fun (man-boy stuff again)





high self esteem= learn to love you. If you have "faults or what you think are inadequacies learn to overcome them or laugh at them.


Look at Mike Meyers... (Austin Powers) not a handsome guy but by all accounts really nice and funny. A good and happy attitude will make you a winner in all areas of life. People love being with happy, optimistic people.





calm and smooth= tough one. all you can do is ask ( see doing the group thing first it's an icebreaker) if she says no, perhaps it's just not the right time or she is not the right one. Hold out for only the best you deserve it!





Sarcastic= kind of.... fine line between sarcasm and rude... takes practice.





Now to the meat of your question. The girl, how to know her better... find things that she likes to do and do them with her. take an interest in things that interest her. Basically get to know her.





The perfect guy for me? well, my guy is brilliant without being snotty, fun without being too crazy, loving without being possessive, thoughtful, caring, just really nice.


I actully fell in love with my husband before I met him just because of what I heard and read about him (no it wasn't an internet thing).


When I finally got to meet him he was everything I had heard and I knew I would do whatever it took to keep him in my life!
Reply:I can only put this in my point of veiw, and I'm really weird so I suggest you don't read this...





I like...funny, sweet, and smart.


Someone who stands for what they believe in, and is different.


I like guys to be smart..and I guess I'm smart..


Being physically active depends on the girl...


By screaming "I LOVE YOU!" and running away...


Just ask...


Don't act like a pimp, unless the girls a ho...


Say, "I'm serious."


Be proud, but subtle.


Say, "Want to go out?" Don't forget to smile..


I do.








If this chick doesn't like you you can't force her to.





You talk to her by forming words that make sense, and letting them out of her mouth while looking in her direction..
Reply:first and for most always be your self get to know her you can't fake it
Reply:Dude got like 100 questions in there hahaha.





Sorry homie as you can see them chicks are cold.
Reply:You shouldn't adjust yourself to match the quota of a standard for a girl. Your strangeness makes you great.


But to indulge you...


Sometimes creepy is good. Not too creepy. Just creepy enough.


Playing a sport never hurts your 'game' but its not a guarantee you'll snag a lady.


Your strut, your posture and your tone of voice are your weapons of mass er... flirtation. Walk like you own the ground you walk on and talk like you believe what youre saying.


Sarcasm is GOOD. Sometimes you shouldn't be taken so seriously. Smarts are always ALWAYS a plus.





You just walk up to her with a post-it note on your shoulder that says "Hi. Let's talk about something. What's your favorite color?" or something like that. You have two things to talk about: post its and colors!
Reply:I cant help you.lol
Reply:what kind of personal traits do girls like?


-all girls are different. humor and honesty always works for me





what gets a girl's attention right away?


-confidence. smile





how smart do girls like guys to be?


-smarter than a potato.





how physically active should a guy be?


-hygene is the #1 thing, unless a girl is looking for a jock. be clean, deordorant, tooth paste.





if someone likes you, how would you want them to tell you?


-slowly. honestly.





if I want to ask a girl out, what do I have to do before asking them out?


-get to know them as friends.





how do I not be creepy?


-dont be nosey. stalker ish. too clingy is bad.





how can I be taken seriously?


-dont lie or stand them up





how can I show a high self esteem?


-be honest. dont cry or bg





how do I keep calm and smooth while asking a girl out?


-dont lie, dont make up stories, it will come natural





do girls like sarcastic guys?


- depends on her humor. maybe not off the bat either.





I really need your help!!! because I like this girl and she doesn't like me! so how do I get her to notice me as a potential boyfriend?





how do I start to get to know her, how do I talk to her?





-- if she already told you she doesnt like you, then there isnt much you can do. You cant make someone like you. It only backfires. try as a friend first, be patient. there is someone for everyone out there. feel free to ask me more q's if needed.
Reply:ok....





*i like guys that are funny, sweet, cute, athletic, understanding, comforting, and romantic guys.


*being nice, showing sympathy, talking to her, stuff like that...


*i like guys who are some-what smart, but not in a braggy "i get all A's" way.


* well, girls usually don't like it when guys are OBSESSED about sports and don't have any time for them; but being physically active is a really, really, really, important....in my life anyway...


* consider if you REALLY like her....if you do, go right ahead. if you don't, don't ask her out.


*don't obsess over her, don't stalk her, don't be to clingy %26amp; needy


* put on your "serious face" when your talking or whatever. don't be all silly, but when your talking slip in a little funny-ness with your "serious face". :)


* don't put yourself down like, "i know i'm gonna fail this test", "rrr, i suck at this", "i don't like me." ALWAYS STAY POSITIVE!!!!! :D


* just act like your talking to your BEST friend in the ENTIRE world.


*sometimes sarcasticness can be REALLY funny, but when you use it too much, the girl won't know when your being serious or not.








hope that helps!!!!
Reply:There are all kinds of people in this world and no too like everything the same. Be yourself. It's hard trying to be something you're not. You don't need a girl who can't accept you for who you are.


It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders. So just be who you are and if she doesn't get you, I promise there is a girl out there that will.
Reply:THE TRAITS I LIKE IN A GUY ARE KINDNESS AND CARE


TRY TALKING TO HER ABOUT SOMETHING SHE LIKES


IT DEPENDS ON THE GIRL REALY........


I DONT THINK U SHOULD BE TO PHYSICALY ACTIVE.....


I WOULD WANT A GUY TO TELL ME THAT I MAKE THEM FEEL SPECIAL WHEN THEY ARE AROUND ME, N MEAN IT


TRY PRACTICING WHAT YOUR GOING TO SAY 2 HER


DONT SAY SICK THINGS JUST BE SWEET N SIMPLE








OHH SORRY GOTTA RUN!








good luck though.............
Reply:Chill out. I like the sweet sensitive ones,I notice when they pay attention and talk to me,I like them as smart as they came to be I like them for who they are.I like them for who they are and they shouldn't change. Girls like different guys. Don't worry about how you should act or whatever. ASK HER OUT PLAIN AND SIMPLE IF YOU RAMBLE OR ARE NERVOUS SHE'LL UNDERSTAND!!!! ASK HER OUT ALL READY!!!!!
Reply:Just be yourself and if she doesn't like you, then move on.
Reply:Ok, I will answer your questions to the best of my knowledge in order.


1. Traits: confident (but not arrogant), kind, funny, good listener, smart


2. Getting a girls attention: either looks, or a funny guy


3. Smart girls like: smart guys, they like someone they can carry on a conversation with, but brains isn't everything.


4. Physically active: That depends on how active the girl is.


5. How should someone say they like you: Just come out and say it. Compliment her and tell her you like her.


6. What do you have to do?: Um, make sure she knows you are alive...that's a good start. Other than that, nothing just ask her.


7. How to not be creepy: Don't try too hard, be yourself. Don't make comments on her body.


8. How to be taken seriously: act like you are serious


9. Show high self esteem: don't stare at the floor or your shoes when talking to her. Look her in the eyes (but don't start, that's creepy), smile and be confident.


10. Keeping calm: Just remember, she is just another person. she has fears just like you do.


11. Sarcastic guys: I like sarcasm, to an extent. I don't like someone who is ALWAYS sarcastic. But, yes I do like a sarcastic guy.





Hope that helps. Good Luck
Reply:Girls like guys who have respect, for her and for themselves! Be genuine, not false. Be well mannered, clean and tidy....don't use foul language in front of her, don't get drunk.





You don't have to be drop-dead gorgeous, rich or oversmart. But girls like guys who have prospects, and not satisfied with living in a dead end-job forever. I can tell you seem like a nice guy or you wouldn't be asking for advice!





As a woman, this works for me......when you see her, make eye contact and give her a beautiful smile. That's it.....do it every time you see her .





After 3 or 4 times, strike up a conversation....either mention the weather or the price of fuel or whatever....then smile and walk away. Look her straight in the eyes each time and hold that smile as long as you can.





If she isn't interested by now, she never will be. But if you happen to run into her more often after this, it's because she is interested....and this is when you ask her to join you for a cup of coffee. She can only say 'No'!





After that, if it all goes well....keep the conversation light, but smile often, ...then ask her out on a date. From then on you are on your own.





But don't pounce on her yet, a soft sweet goodnight kiss on the first date, a more passionate one on the second....arms included....and possibly by the third date you might not even have to say a thing...let your bodies do the talking.





Good luck.
Reply:Generally, girls like guys who are confident and are willing to make the first move. Funny guys are always a plus, but it's usually the first two things that will get a girl's attention. (Unless of course, the guy is that good looking.)


How smart should a guy be? A guy should be smart enough to hold a conversation with a girl, but he shouldn't try to dumb himself down to get with a girl.


A guy's physical activity really depends on the girl. Some girls like scrawny guys, others like pudgy guys and there are the girls who like buff guys.


Before you ask a girl out, you need to know her somewhat. Like, most girls find it weird if a guy asks them out when they've never talked to the guy before. You should try talking to the girl, even if it's just small talk to get to know her better and find out more about her. You may find out that you have tons of stuff in common or nothing in common at all.


Ok, now for the asking a girl out part. If you like her, TELL HER. But do it when it's just the two of you, the last thing you want are her friends standing there watching while it happens. The best way to act "smooth" and "show a high self-esteem" is to be yourself. It's already an uncomfortable thing to do, so why make yourself even more uncomfortable by acting? I promise the not being creepy part is easy, especially if you act like yourself. A lot of (but not all) guys like to use pick-up lines on girls, but honestly, most of them are awful and really creepy. So that's just about all you have to worry about there. Sarcasm is something you do have to be careful with sometimes. Personally, I appreciate sarcastic guys (as do many of my friends), but if the girl doesn't get sarcasm then that could lead to problems.


I don't know how you know that this girl doesn't like you, but if she's come out and told you that.. well, there's not much you can do. Perhaps she will change her opininon of you, but the best thing you can do is try to become better friends with her. Just talk to her, like casually at school. If you have classes with her, try talking to her then. It's a great reason to, and a conversation starter. If she doesn't see you as a potential boyfriend, I promise you that you will find some other girl who is just as good as her, that does.





How do you get to know her? Talk to her.


How do you talk to her? Be yourself. Act the way you do when you're talking with your friends. If she doesn't like you, it's HER loss.