Girls do u judge a guy alot based on his apperance?....at a club?

i've been going clubbign recently and with the guys its a competition thing if ucan get a girl's number, dance, makeout, or for the nightwith her. well usually guys or my frends dont get to sleeping with ehr for the night juss dance number and makeout and thats as far as i got. i get rejected alot. i dotn know why. the guys simply say u have no game. but i think i get rejected because of the way i look. for instance my frend is 6'2 black and looks fresh and well groomed kind alike "fabolous" not exactly good looking with features but gives off a good image. and for sum reason he gets all teh girls he told me to just call her over " hey can i talk to u? then say i think ur real charming i was wondering if i can get a dance with u?" he does it more of the gangster way but it suits his style big and bold. he told me to do that and I did to this blonde and well she looked at me and said no. then he did it and got a yes he does a lot but u see I think it suits his style tall dark and well handsome I dotn think so but I notice for sum reason at clubs girls prefer black guys I dotn know why I mean its good to be with a real man who fights is tough and can take crae of u but juss cause they are dressed that way don’t mean they can my friend can but most of the ones there I can knock them out cold. DO GIRLS PERFER BLACK GUYS MORE?





And on to me now well I am 5’8 so im average when I approach physically I dotn make a big impression. And people say I have the most innocent softest look to my face where ppl feel sorry for me. I approach girls the nice way “hey sweetheart u look real nice….” “hey u look like the sweetest girl in here do u wanna dance with the sweetest guy?” well most of the tiem I get a no. no I dotn wanna dance no thanks they just walk away sum times and sumtiems their frends tell me to go away. I mean I know u girls judge a guy based on his looks just how much though? And how should I approach? What should be my icebreaker? And what else?





Hey if any1 can help me please do so.

Girls do u judge a guy alot based on his apperance?....at a club?
In general about dancing, be nervous, be unsure of yourself, have a lack of confidence in your dancing, and girls won't want to dance with you. They don't want to be uncomfortable with you; they feel sufficient discomfort just looking at your uncomfortable self.





Sounds like you have a lot of doubt about yourself, your looks, your dancing skills, what to say, which causes you to feel uncomfortable, nervous, and unsure of yourself. When you're approaching girls this probably, no, it almost definitely shows through. It's what girls try to avoid. They see all this stuff within a second; in a snap you're rejected. That's why you'll see girls move away from a creepy guy before he even comes up to her.





I think if you build a little confidence in this arena, you'll be able to relax and your cool and fun personality will be able to shine through. Maybe master a good approach that won't scare girls or creep girls out. Sounds silly, like you're being a nerd, but you need to feel confident about something, right? Or you could try learning some dance moves that you know look cool. Or maybe get some really nice clothes or get a whole new look altogether that will make you feel confident. Become confident in one area at the club, spread that confidence to other areas, and before you know it you'll be stealing girls in front of your friends face.
Reply:To be honest... not all girls go for a guys appearence. There is something more to a person than just looks. We can also sense when a man is being honest and respectful and not using "pick up lines". If you want to start talking to a nice, decent, respectful girl... try being honest and start a simple, respectful conversation. For example, "Hi, how are you?" or ask her about her opinion on the weather. She will notice that you are being kind, respectful and not just another jerk on the street. Good luck and be careful who and where you choose your girls. One more thing: That isnt a nice game you play at all with your friends... if you ever want to find a nice decent girl... that is one "terrible game" you are playing. How would you feel if somebody played that game to you???
Reply:Aww. you seem like a sweet person, but you know maybe a club isn't the right place for someone with your personality and style to pick up girls. Honestly, I agree in clubs a lot of the time it amounts to who is flashiest. After all, the music is so loud, it's dark, people are drunk and blowing smoke in your face. You really have to stand out in some way, and maybe if that isn't you, it comes off as an act.





Switch your venue. Try a calmer setting, like a chill bar, a school/campus event, or even some place as simple as a barbecue or the mall.





Try not to try. Just be friendly, but a hint of charm, like good eye contact and a friendly smile. If she's into you, she'll let you know. Otherwise, don't force it. That's even worse. And pickup lines. YUCK. just be cool, laid back.
Reply:I go to a mostly white guy school, and theres 4 black guys living below me, and I swear just about every girl on campus parties downstairs...i feel your pain hardcore man...but theyre usually more confident...also I know a kid whos pretty fat but hes got a good personality and he gets more girls than all of us put together...maybe your approach just doesnt work in the club scene...every girls different...
Reply:ok being a clubbanger...i can honestly tell you that it has NOTHING to do with color!! the way the guys dances with me is key!! he needs to show me how sexy and desirable he is in the way he moves with me! and i gotta admit....the white ones do just fine!!!!

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