Girls...., i want to know if a girl listens to her friends more than her boyfriend?

My Girlfriend's friends are brainwashing her.


They are using all efforts to pull her away from me. She loves me but when she talks to one of her friends on phone she becomes too attentive that she does'nt even listens to me. I feel that girl is brainwashing her a lot.





We had sex 20-30 times %26amp; i made a lot of promises to her, but now i feel that our marriage can't be a success because i think that even after marriage her friend/s will influence her %26amp; keep on interfering in our life in an indirect manner.





Since, i made so much promises to this girl, will it be OK if i initiate the break-up.





Ps Note:- If i tell her not to talk with this girl or that girl she will say OK, but she will lie with me %26amp; keep on talking to these girls





I am in a tizzy %26amp; i pull my hairs as i love this girl very very very much but she sounds to be immature as the person who listens to another is immature. I am 27 %26amp; she is 21.

Girls...., i want to know if a girl listens to her friends more than her boyfriend?
explain that her friends are breaking you guys appart... have her plan time to spend with her friends, and time to spend with you, If she wont listen, and doesn't care, then it's not worth it, and you should end the relationship.





Hope this helps!! ^_^
Reply:she is still young so just try to deal with it for a while. maybe she has known those people for a very long time. try to take her out on a date or stay at home and have a date evry week or so and maybe she will be attached to you. everyone needs their space so maybe she needs hers for a little bit. kick back and relax with some of your friends too.
Reply:Honestly hun,


girls do listen to their friends more, because we can connect with our girlfriends more(they understand certain things we feel and are goin threw) than our boy friends. The best thing to do is hope that she loves you so much that, what anyone says she kind of blows off, and in the end does what her heart guides her to do.


tc and good luck
Reply:What i think you should do sir is talk to your lover and explain to her that you love her and not her friends and that if she loves you she shouldn't listen to her friends and trust her heart now this may sound dumb but its the truth,also i don't want to be the one to say this but it need to be said i don't think you should have the right to tell your lover who to and who not associate with because she may think you are trying to own her and do the opposite of what you said.So really just sit down like the adult you are and explain how you feel about things.
Reply:She's just listening to other girl's opinions. She needs her friends once in a while. I wouldn't say to break up with her.
Reply:Man thats tough. I'm sorry your going through with this. Listen. This is going to be hard but... this is the only thing that will help. And... you are not going to like hearing this but I think your worth hearing the truth.





You are more mature than her. Really. I understand that you guys are inlove. You love her so so so much. But if you really do love her that much... you will be able to wait. Wait until she finds herself. She needs to find who she is before she can make any kind of commitment to you. You really do deserve better. She doesn't respect what she has to stay. If she really cared that much about you... she'd take your side, not her friends.





And your right. You seem like a very smart man. Your marriage cant be a success with her acting that way.





This is what you need to do-- Sit down and talk to her. Tell her that you really can't take this anymore. Tell her what you are telling us. And I bet you have already done that, but this time... tell her that you really want some respect. This is what you say to her--"Honey, I can't do this anymore. I want to be with you, but... it's almost like you don't even care about being with me. I love you so much that... I'm willing to wait until you find yourself. I'm willing to wait until your are mature enough to handle this kind of a relationship. It's a constant rollercoaster ride and...I just don't want this. I think we should break-up."





Just because you *love* someone...doesn't mean they are THE RIGHT PERSON for you. You need to think with your head. Imagine your future with her. Will she always do this? What about with your kids? She may promise them toys and road trips but never give them what she promised them. You on the other hand will. I can imagine it. You are a great father who struggles to bring home money for the family and fill your wifes needs of expensive clothes, a huge house, and designer purses. while you are also trying to make sure your kids get the love and respect the deserve. You will most likely get a divorce in your marriage. And your kids will be torn apart. I have seen people with kids get divorces. It rips the kids apart.





Another thing is... when you have been married for a long time... the flame burns out. You are no longer actracted to them in a sexual way. You love them and you couldnt live without them, but you don't have any sexual desire to be with them. You need to make sure that when that flame does burn out... you can be best friends.





I wish the best for you and I know you will make the right choice.





=)
Reply:A GIRL LISTENING...Introduce me please.
Reply:If her friends do not respect the relationship, then there is a problem. But if it's something like you give her advice, and she takes her friend's instead, then it could just be natural. Lots of times I give my boyfriend advice but he'll only believe it if his mom backs it up. The closer people are the meaner they are to each other (as in taking out frustrations on each other) and the less likely they'll listen (ask any parent).
Reply:This is really bad .sorry .But friends ,boyfriend not at all same . If she doing like this ,U have to do something for her ,why dont u spend more time with her and make her happy always bcoz u love her lot .then wait and see ,If she do like this again , stay way somedays and avoid calls too .Hope it will work out .But right now dont think about mariage and she is not a kid (she made date with u that u told ) she know verrywell which is wrong which is correct . think lot and take step best for u.!! All the best.!!
Reply:Well im a girl myself (:


and i dont think the break up thing is a good idea atm


you obv love her lots.


i dont no why her mates are brainwashing her


sounds stupiid


back to the question..


girls listn to bf's just as much as there mates


but a girls friends. theres nothing more important,


just talk to your gf about it be more open.


Goood Luck xx
Reply:For me, my bf is over my friends. I balance the two but my bf is very special to me so I choose to listen to him more then friends. Thankfully I have honest friends that tell me, if I need to stand up for myself, or, if I need to change my ways. But sounds like her friends are more important to her. Sorry.
Reply:counseling..quick...hurry!
Reply:Try and talk to ur girlfriend about how it bothers you. im sure she'll back off if she %26lt;3s u