In my family i have only sisters...no brothers....so my company was always with these girls....they considerd me as a girl.when i was a kid they dressed me as a girl ...and made me a member among them.we have a festival in here where guys dress up like girls to please the godess.
this made me even girlish..
They stopped dressing me like a girl when i started to grow up,but i could not stop it ...
so i did it myself in my room hiding...with door locked.
i do it even now....i feel pleased to do it.....
but when i am out of my room i behave like a real guy.
now i wear all that a girl do..in my room....like
panty,bra,napkin,skirt,slips,makeup,li... etc.
i purchase bra,panty etc from shop.
none knows about it.
i have decided to stop it when i marry.
is what i do ,wrong !!
can i continue this till i have a girl friend.....
i am straight.not gay.
girls plz i need your valuble advice ,because u know abt this well....
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GIRLS OR LADIES only reply ! its serious ! i am a 19 yr old guy ,need advice?
I understand why you have this behavior. I don't think that dressing in women's things is WRONG. Doing so isn't hurting anyone but yourself. What I hear in your question and comments is a desperate and confused young man. You are very uncomfortable and ashamed with your secret life. It's time to change it NOW! There's no gaurantee that you will change after you are married, just like a person who drinks doesn't stop drinking when he/she becomes married - no matter how hard they try to hide or deny it before.
You realize that the problem isn't inherent. You acquired this by how you were treated like a girl when you were young. I'm wondering if you still spend time with your sisters. If so, I suggest that you distance yourself from them until you become stronger. It sounds like you deeply have the desire to become masculine - as most males do. Start by involving yourself in male-oriented activities (sports, hunting, fishing, etc). Surround yourself with men. Talk with them often. Observe and learn from them. Putting these things in your life and changing your surroundings will eventually overcome the desire to dress as a woman.
Change your environment at home. Get rid of all your female things. Do it in a ceremonial way, such as burning them or throwing them out and rewarding yourself with something new. This is an important event in your life - not to be taken casually. You are looking towards your future and putting your past behind you. Remember that day as the one that changed your life in positive ways!
When you think that you want to dress again, focus on your future and the man you want to be, not the boy you were. Keep that picture in your mind. Also, keep in mind that someday you will be able to see your wife in pretty, feminine clothing - something to look forward to! She'll look alot better in them than you and you can help her choose them! (Just make sure SHE's wearing them, not you. That would cause big problems.)
Put it in your past and noone needs to know about it. Be very, very proud of yourself of how hard you've worked to overcome a problem that someone else gave you!
Good luck to you!
Reply:Please don't think you are abnormal. You are perfectly normal. Some straight men like to dress in women's clothing. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you. I used to work in a hotel and every year we had the cross dresser's club called Sigma Mu. They were mostly straight and they even brought their wives with them. It was just something they liked to do. Just make sure if you are going to cross dress, you do a really good job of it. And find a girl who is willing to accept you for who you are. There's no need to change your personality for anyone. I am a 48 year old straight woman and i can tell you for sure, you're fine. Accept yourself and find the woman who will accept you just the way you are. I have an 18 year old son and i hope if he were in this situation, someone would reassure him. Also, please don't listen to other answers that assume ther is something wrong with this. There isn't a thing in the world wrong with it. Be who you are.
Reply:It won't be easy for you to stop right away,even when you get a girlfriend,so it's very important that you find ways to do it now,gradually on your own or with professional help because it will hurt you in the end,and possibly those you love. Because you know the root and source if where this habit started and came from,you are at a much higher level to find success in over-coming this issue.Try to stop a little each day,and feel more confident as a man as much as possible. Do more guy things,and even see if your sisters could allow for the guy things you might like to do and invite your male friends to go over and have all guy events that are fun that you love and enjoy!
Reply:I'm sorry to hear this.
So, I'm sorry to hear that you feel bad about this.
To be sincere I think you should just STOP it!
You should try to be more determined! If you decide to STOP it, you should stuck on this and should try to give an end to this.
When you feel like you want to dress up like a girl, try to get busy with smth else. call a friend and go out with him/her, go and have a walk etc until this kind of desire goes away. Anytime you feel this try to do smth else. It is better if you stop it now, because later on it may get worse!
Good luck!
I'm sure you CAN DO IT!
Reply:well its like this you are one of them boys that feel com. on girls clothes and you just need to find a girl that can understand your problem well its not a problem its just sum you like but you can email me at lilprincesmiz@yahoo.com
Reply:is this a cultural thing, or are you just confused, chill, out, calm down, and wear the pants in your marriage
Reply:Dude, am a guy and let me tell you something BURN your girl clothes, and join a sport to take use your free time up, that will keep you from thinking about it, and try and get a girl man another thing to keep your mind busy.
Reply:WOW...I don't even know what to say about this one...honestly, if I found out my man liked to do that, I think I would have to leave him! And, who is to say that once you get married, you will be able to stop doing it!!! I think you need to talk to a boy/man that has done this kind of thing before or still does do it, to get better advice!!!
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